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I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship txt I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship, text ebook I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship, adobe reader I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship, chapter 2 I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship, I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship ca4203 While Most Christians Agree To Seek Purity And Save Sex For Marriage, Few Have Been Given A Blueprint For How That Should Affect Their View Of Dating And Love In I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris Exposes The Seven Habits Of Highly Defective Dating And Offers A Realistic Outline Of How To Have A Biblical Vision Of Marriage Harris Contends That One Must Begin With A New Attitude, Viewing Love, Purity, And Singleness From God S Perspective Rather Than Thinking That Love And Romance Are To Be Enjoyed Solely For Recreation In Such Well Named Chapters As Guarding Your Heart And What Matters At Fifty, Harris Encourages The Reader To Look At One S Character Rather Than Reveling In Infatuation, To Regard Love As A Truly Selfless, Biblical Act Rather Than A Feeling He Refutes The Concept That We Are Victims Of Falling In Love That It Is Beyond Our Control , Saying That God Wants Us To Seek Guidance From Scriptural Truth, Not Feeling Smart Love Looks Beyond Personal Desires And The Gratification Of The Moment It Looks At The Big Picture Serving Others And Glorifying God Before You Roll Your Eyes, Moaning That This Sounds Terribly Unromantic, Know That Harris Does A Superb Job Of Couching His Convictions In The Sincere Belief That If We Are Purposeful In Our Singleness And Date With Integrity, A Fulfilled Marriage Awaits Us In God S TimingJill Heatherly

About the Author: Joshua Harris

Joshua Harris lives outside Washington, D.C., in Gaithersburg, Maryland, where he s a pastor at Covenant Life Church His greatest passion is preaching the gospel and calling his generation to wholehearted devotion to God Each January he leads a national conference for singles called New Attitude.

10 thoughts on “I Kissed Dating Goodbye: New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship

  1. says:

    It s weird.When I read this for the first and only time, I had just parted ways with a high school girlfriend Our relationship had been the most intense I d ever had, and while we were in it, we were both pretty positive that this was real and fervent love She s now happily married to a great guy who isn t me, and I m now happily married to an amazing woman who isn t her I m not proud of how it ended, but it needed to.This book fell into the midst of that dynamic in my life, and it rocked me Not date girls casually as a means to get to know them, and instead enjoy healthy friendships, one day implementing the idea of courting a girl whom you were led to by the Lord At the time, amazing In many ways, I needed this book then It helped to focus me, and remind me of the importance and necessity of my heart s need for Christ first and foremost, before all things and before all others.Would I still recommend it Would I tell someone else that You should read this in order to know how God wants us to deal with dating, relationships, and the whole nine yards It s doubtful.It helped me, but it also contributed to and suggested a rigidity of interaction and relationship that eventually had to be cast aside in order for me to develop relationship and fall in love with the woman who would become my life This book is one of a number of different books that I d suggest reading if you insist on reading it with a constant consideration of its contents as idea and suggestion , whether or not it says this is what you have to do Very real problems tend to arise when Christians hammer things down and define them with no wiggle room for mystery, change, trust, and guidance by the Holy Spirit.

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    I am a 17 year old christian teenage girl who has lived her relationship life according to this book and has no regrets I have healthy friendships with a lot of guys but amazingly enough not a single boyfriend And my life has been just fine for it Actually, my life has been great The whole point of the book is that there is a season for everything a season for investing in friendships, and a season for dating courting for the purpose of marriage This has worked just fine for all the people around me most singles in my church don t practice dating either , and there has been no lack of wonderful marriages I don t date, but that doesn t mean I ve thrown away marriage I m just using my time to serve God instead of committing my heart to a boyfriend right now Which is the whole point of the book It is actually a fun book, and very easy to read Josh is not condemning, but he does let people know that there are other options out there besides dating.

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    I actually kissed dating goodbye after I got married except the infrequent times my wife and I can leave our kids at home and go out for a quick dinner However, this book really is a challenge to teens and younger adults college young singles to rethink their mindset of the dating culture Some will cringe in reading this ideology for the first time, but when contimplating how to protect your own holiness and the purity of others, it makes sense Accountability and NOT acting on feelings or immature desires is beneficial in ANY relationship, particularly towards the opposite sex The Bible does not say, THOU SHALT NOT DATE but it does call us to holiness and to protect the purity of others This is a practical book to present and different approach to developing godly relationships that may lead to marriage based on Scriptural truths.BTW I ve noticed that SOMETIMES the people who hate this book are also people who are a bit boy or girl crazy and will attack it as stupid or unbiblical It is like the alcoholic stating that Jesus drank wine, Paul told Timothy to take a little wine for his ailments, and the Passover is warrant to drink alcohol even though it will hurt them as an alcholic.

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    Tired of the game Kiss dating goodbye Dating Isn t there a better way I Kissed Dating Goodbye suggests there is Reorder your romantic life in the light of God s Word and find fulfillment than a date could ever give a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness That is the promise and the premise behind Joshua Harris new book I Kissed Dating Goodbye Joshua Harris writes pretty well, and he makes several good points in this book When he talks about God s view on love, Harris is right on the money Love is not just a feeling It is not a dominating force that overwhelms our ability to follow God Unfortunately, Harris radical new take on dating is really old fashioned Pharisaical law Harris has rightly shown some problems with our culture s view of dating, but his own system, while claiming to be biblical, reminds me very much of the Pharisees practice of writing their own laws to make sure that their fellow Jews wouldn t break God s laws And we know how Jesus felt about that You might be wondering what I mean when I say that Harris has replaced a defective system with his own set of rules, instead of following God s laws Pharisee ism can be a very subtle thing So let me give a very clear example One of the key reasons Harris gives for avoiding dating is because it does not live up to God s standards for love as set out in 1 Corinthians 13 Dating is short term, it can be self centered, and it can lead someone to fall away from God Harris solution is to avoid committing to one person until you are ready to marry Is that a biblical perspective on love 1 Corinthians 13 is not talking about romantic love It is talking about the love that we are supposed to have for all believers all the time Now, can dating be self centered Of course it can Can dating lead you to care too much about the short term Yep Can dating cause someone to fall away from God Definitely Can dating lead to prematurely intimate physical relationships No doubt.But it doesn t have to do any of these things Harris proposes his own solution, courtship, which is no biblical than dating There isn t really any advice on dating or courting in the Bible because that was not a very big part of that culture Marriages were mostly arranged affairs that were as much about economics and social status as love So, there is really no such thing as biblical courtship or dating or whatever else There are just decisions that believers need to make about how they are going to follow God in their situation.So, I liked this book for some of its criticisms of our culture I just don t think the prescription is any better than the disease.

  5. says:

    I was forced to read this book by the female youth leader in a youth group I was a part of, along with all the other guys Some of us kissed dating goodbye, others of us kissed youth group goodbye.

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    While the book is well written and the ideas are well expressed and thought out, Harris theories just don t play well in a complex world filled with people There is no set of rules or philosophies that one can apply to Christian premarital romance nor any kind of romance, nor any kind of relationship, for that matter , and I believe that, unfortunately, Harris ideas are a contribution to a philosophy that has caused much pain and cynicism in young single Christian circles I can say this from experience.In concurrence with Harris ideas, many of our parents, with the best intentions, told us pubescent, hormonal Christians that we should wait for God to bring the right one that God has designed someone just for you Harris has taken this idea and designed a dating paradigm that fosters to it, gearing up singles to pursue only that one, special, unique someone that God has made just for them This has led many of us naive, unsuspecting singles to expect to suddenly wake up one morning with the perfect man woman, a ring on our finger, passionate sex that of course was saved for marriage without any sort of struggle , and a relationship with depth that s centered around Christ.What I mean to say is, we know what we want and we expect God to get us there without any effort on our part Having always been told to wait for God to bring this ominous One to us, to kiss dating goodbye, and that God has sculpted said One just for us, we have this hopelessly naive and incorrect idea that if we sit around, living our romance free and happy lives which, let s be honest, is unfortunately a bit of an oxymoron in our culture , God is going to make romance happen to us and another unsuspecting, beautiful, godly, pure individual.The repercussions of this are the cause of constant frustration in both sexes I ve heard so many of my girl friends complain about this guy that they like so much, who they happen to know likes them, with whom she hangs out all the time often one on one, over coffee and this guy just won t ask her out, won t pursue her openly, won t lay his cards on the table and make himself vulnerable Being a guy, and a guy that s been guilty of this, I can tell you that it s largely due to the aforementioned paradigm Asking a girl out is terrifying, even if you know she ll say yes vulnerability is petrifying This is why the unconscious assumption that God will bring the right person to us is so comfortable It requires no risk God is going to do all the work for us That s why we hang out with that girl we love for hours on end, always alluding to our feelings for her but never outright pursuing her, waiting for God to make it happen It s comfortable, it s safe, and then you end up with mountains of sexual tension that haven t been expressed and eventually that coffee date becomes a make out session without any pretext, without definitions, which leads to crossed boundaries and baggage Fortunately I ve been able to avoid this, but I ve seen it far too many times for me to dismiss it as anything less than a pattern.Alternately, I ve heard many guys, myself included, complain about girls that simply will not say yes to a date Because of our paradigm, those of us guys that have already gone through the frustrations of kissing dating goodbye , realized that the difference between dating and Harris ideas are simply in semantics, and have moved on to dating have found that many amazing, beautiful and godly girls will say no to a date with an amazing, godly man not because she s not attracted to him or not interested, but because she can t see herself marrying him There s an expectation that, because God has this perfect man made for them, as soon as she sees him she ll be hopelessly in love and there won t even need to be a first date A date, or courtship, or whatever you want to call it, is the context in which you get to know the other in order to determine whether you could marry that person You can t determine that in day to day life But, at the same time, girls expect us to pursue them, but not in a dating context because of the negative stigma given to that construct Us guys are given so many mixed signals, because we re expected to pursue the girl like Christ pursues the Church thanks, Francine Rivers, for giving every Christian woman the expectation that a good Christian man will be a cookie cut out from Redeeming Love , but then again, if we do any kind of pursuing and the girl isn t already convinced that she could marry the guy, then we get shot down So we are forced into the exact same context mentioned above, hanging out with the girl we like, allowing her to get to know us in a nonromantic context so that she can determine whether she could marry us again, you can t determine how romantically compatible you are with someone in a nonromantic context So as the two hang out and , and the girl still comes no closer to determining marriageability, emotions and sexual tension are still on the rise, and the same consequence mentioned above takes place.All this being said, it s no wonder that young, single Christians are among the most romantically cynical beings I ve ever met and I am often guilty of this as well I m not saying that Joshua Harris is solely to blame, but I do believe that his books and ideology are a manifestation of this vague, misleading and tragic dating philosophy that is fostering so many embittered cynics in young Christian circles The Church needs to begin addressing this issue, and realizing that there is no clean cut solution and set of rules to apply to the grey area of romance Only working relationship with us singles, intimate knowledge of our individual situations and, most importantly, the love and grace of Christ can lead us into romance with healthy expectations and practices We don t need books, we need older, experienced believers investing in us That s what the Church is, anyway a complex body of relationships, not a bookshelf of philosophies.

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    I know no one s going to read my review, but I ve just been itching to write it I have a feeling it will turn into a long rambling session since I feel pretty strongly about this subject I know I m just another young adult who wasn t fond of this book, so my critique is probably insignificant among the sea of others out there I know that I m just young and foolish and how could I ever question this book s teachings everyone should do it Everyone who has ever followed what Joshua Harris says has wonderful results and a lifelong, heavenly marriage, right As someone who had to read this in my junior year of high school I was homeschooled , I don t necessarily believe that Sure, there are some couples who did the whole courtship thing and ended up marrying the love of their life As long as they re truly happy, who am I to tell them what they should have done I just don t believe courtship works for everyone. This is what I think let teenagers be teenagers They re not impure if they hold hands They don t suddenly lose their innocence if they have crushes They re not damaged goods for kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend They re not immoral if they do have a boyfriend or girlfriend in the first place Nearly everyone who is a strong advocate for courtship is all like, But you ll regret your stupid choices one day Guard your heart You know what I do regret Never experiencing that part of being a teenager I will never know what it s like Maybe deep down, I m still one of those girls who is desperate or maybe I m just being sentimental But honestly, don t take those years for granted I m not saying that teenagers should be reckless and do everything on a whim Not at all Logic and common sense should obviously be valued I simply believe that keeping your heart under lock and key at all times is a terrible possibly damaging idea Besides, C.S Lewis said to love at all is to be vulnerable You know what else makes you vulnerable Being alive If you do break up with your significant other and feel sad for awhile, that s just part of life It won t be unbearable and you will get through it Life is all about discovery, full of warmth and rawness and giving and taking and pouring yourself out It is impossible to avoid pain in life, and shielding yourself from getting hurt by romantic relationships is only going to increase your fear of the world.I m going to try to word this in a way that makes sense, but which sounds better to youexperiencing love as a young teen and going through all the sweet and difficult times but you grow and learn from it anyway, or being an adult who has never done anything like that court someone with the intention of marriage, but nothing turned out like you thought it would and you just broke down and gave up Because I have heard stories about the latter A lot of stories All because of this book It can definitely happen, and courtship champions should stop acting as though it is impossible Their method isn t perfect either Nothing in life is perfect Besides, if you wait too long to be romantically involved with someone, you may find yourself struggling to bond with them like you should since you were taught from an early age to continually be on guard because every guy girl you meet is going to rip your heart to shreds Again, I m not saying this happens to everyone, it s solely my theory.Anyway, I m sure I have bored you quite enough On with the book I ve only read it once and that was a few years ago, and would rather not read it again From what I remember, his writing style was extremely repetitive and he repeated the same ideas over and over and over again I literally had to take a break after reading a few pages at a time I also remember a particular passage where a woman was explaining this dream where she was marrying her fianc I think he was, anyway and they were at the altar Then all of the fianc s exes went up to him and stood next to him uh if you ve read this book, you probably already know what I m talking about I find that passage ridiculous Was he implying that our hearts are only capable of so much love before they crash and burn You love your family, you love your friends, and you love your pets You love certain musicians, artists and writers I m sure that loving people, whether they ll become part of your past or stay with you for a long time, is NOT going to make you unworthy or undesirable A loving heart is a truly beautiful thing.One thing I strongly dislike is this all guys girls are evil and out to get me EXCEPT for my future husband wife mindset If you actually believe that, it will show, trust me I know that not everyone who is for courtship thinks like that, but quite a few of them do If you have that mindset, how will any guy or girl be able to approach you and want to start a relationship with you in the first place Think about it.That s just the short version of all my thoughts If I go on too much longer, my fingers won t be able to type for a while Like I mentioned near the beginning, if couples who courted are truly happy that they did it kudos to them Josh Harris had good intentions, but I suspect this book has done damage than good.So, in summary I m tired of Christians who practice courtship treating this book like it s the pinnacle of nonfiction, and homeschooling parents since these beliefs are the norm in many homeschool circles must stop micromanaging their adult children s lives It s just wrong on so many levels.Edit 3 5 17I find it very telling how Harris has apologized for the hurt his book has caused and seems to be stepping away from it altogether On his website, he is now accepting stories from IKDG readers on how it affected their lives Old news, I know, but it s a step and I can t help but feel proud of him for sincerely trying to understand.Edit 10 23 18Just read this afternoon that IKDG will no longer be printed.

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    A relationship based solely on physical attraction and romantic feelings will last only as long as the feelings last.By inflating the importance of feelings, we neglect the impt of putting love in action When we evaluate the quality of our love for someone else simply by our own emotional fulfillment, we are being selfish.Feelings governed them, and finally, when the feelings ended, so did their relationship I admit I didn t agree with everything that s written on this book It was a bit judgemental and one sided for me I m not being angry or offended, I m just merely stating my observations note that I m not a Christian as well It was the author s own conviction and commitment But what made me like this book was the fact that it wasn t trying to force those information down our throats Whatever words you use, remember that the goal of your communication is not winning a debate or convincing your hearers of your view It was just there for your to read and to consider to follow if you deem fit It was always trying to pose questions and the possibility of what can happen for certain things that happen in our life.I Kissed Dating Goodbye isn t all about dating and love There were talks of impurity which we might all agree that society doesn t see important in relationship any It teaches us the necessity of break up which we all know is hard Messy Remember you don t have to prove them wrong to do what you know is right There s a good chance they won t understand at first or will think you re making up excuse for bringing a relationship to an end Don t try to argue with them to prove a point This book disagrees with what our society think is acceptable, and I admit that it is refreshing to read something like this, like hearing different opinions.Overall, it s a good read and if you re open minded on other s religions, this is still a highly recommended book for everyone Find someone who will light candles, not just curse the darkness

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    Coming from a happily married woman, I found this to be a stupid composition that follows a typical Christian formula of twisting Scripture to suit the point the author wants to make Purposeful singleness Common sense, rather than blowing up your every state of being into assuring yourself of your godliness, will get you further in my opinion Only made a splash because it was written by a young, attractive male who claimed to have quit dating for good Don t listen to me, though, read it for yourself and make up your own mind unlike the author would have you do.

  10. says:

    Bull honkey This philosophy destroys intimacy and feeds the guilt culture that is overly a part of modern Christian families Zero stars.

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